Magical Maturity!


Almost a year into college, Less than a month away from turning 19(the last year of being a teenager L) a new chapter in life awaits. Makes me wonder, how time flies ,how those desperate attempts of not wanting to face the “real bad world”  go in vain, how the experiences that we gain end up molding our entire thought process, the people we meet, their role in shaping our opinions and their influences in our life. There are highs and off-course the lows and yes! we fall (not just in love :P) and then get up..We try our level best not to fall again but in the entire process we end up discovering that falling is inevitable, all we learn is getting up and moving on. And eventually we realize that the interval at which we fall gets bigger, which actually comes across as the only respite and a big one indeed..We learn…We grow…We mature!

These talks of maturity coming from someone like ME ! Which is apparently quite contrary to my supposed image..BUT NOW, I JUST DON'T CARE!!I guess life teaches you all...for those conscious efforts to conceal certain “closely guarded” aspects of your personality may not necessarily work all the time..More often than not people judge you on the kind of materialistic preferences you make in life ,which is wrong..But what is more wrong is the fact that in the quest of keeping up with that “public image” we don’t bring out the real side of us..That too because we consider people unworthy of knowing us, plainly Because they judge us..Everyone fears getting judged, but everyone is judgmental in some  way or other..And practically thinking this is fairly justified! Who on earth has the time to get into the intricate details of a person’s psychology and analyze their behavior! It’s either white or Black!

Being over-the-top, oh-so-messy, always on the move, overtly dramatic, extremely loud is one thing! But understanding that you are one is what matters. As Alain De Botom said “Maturity is knowing where you are crazy, trying to warn others of the fact and trying to keep yourself under control”Most people fail to understand that not growing up has noting to do with being immature but an active concealment of your sensibilities and maturity can be pretty ridiculous, although it may not necessarily mean that you are “pretending to be someone” you are not..These streaks of craziness are healthy ,they make the world colorful, they keep life going and craziness coupled with the idea of being sensible is a rare virtue. In the words of David Kessler “Maturity is when you accept the fact that two opposite ideas can exist together”.

No matter whether I am 19 or 90, I would always want to be that tree which takes forever to grow up.Yet as I get older I realize that life doesn’t get any easier, however I do learn to deal with things better with the bad days and have more of gratitude for the good ones essentially realizing the fact that this combination makes an overall happy life. When we can endure uncertainty in all walks of our life, that’s when we know we are mature. It’s not always about how well we prepare for everything to go right,but how well we stand up and move on after everything goes wrong. As I wrote this I realized that something was missing, probably the ability to sort out the portions of truth from the accepted lies and self-deceptions which I grew up with..Somewhere down the line , it just helped me get sorted , or maybe more clear in my head..Somewhere It made me more sensible..more mature.. 
And I take it as a BIRTHDAY LESSON  which hopefully stays for life!

PS: I owe a large part of this understanding to that one person, every conversation with whom gives me a new perspective, makes me a better person. THANKS A TON!

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